I have been thinking a lot about what my PURPOSE is while I am on this earth.
Right now, take a deep, slow inhale. Exhale very slowly, and think.
Every part of this flower has a purpose.
I am a firm believer that if we can feel that we are needed in this world, then we will feel this as a reason to live. It might not be so obvious to us as to what that is. For example: A grandfather who is widowed, home everyday, with lots of time on his hands might be struggling with getting out of bed. He doesn't feel that anyone needs him.
Next door, his neighbor, same age, also a widower, feels he has lots to offer to his grandchildren as far as knowledge, care, and love. He wakes up every morning wondering how they are, and how he might be able to help them.
He has a spring in his step, and he doesn't realize why.
He has found purpose to his life.
GIVE YOURSELF AWAY
If you want to feel that you are needed, (and you ARE!), then begin to give yourself away. Create something that was not there. For instance, visit your church and find out if there are any shut-ins who could use a visit.
Like animals? Visit a pound or shelter and offer to walk a dog, or to just sit and pet or talk to them.
See litter on the ground? Pick it up.
My friend, you definitely ARE needed in this world! The quicker you realize this, the happier you will be.
Offering different perspectives, because sometimes that makes all the difference.
What are your thoughts when you hear the word 'intention'?
For most of my life, my thoughts related to that word were:
Good intentions = loose weight, eating better, getting more sleep, something marriage vows are made of, etc.
Bad intentions = things my kids might do to each other, like pulling a chair out from under the other.
When I started going to Yoga Classes, and then taking a 200 hour Teacher Training, and then even when I created my very first Vision Board, I learned a great deal more about this magical word.
IF there is something you want in this world...… Share it!
Wish it OUT LOUD!
Better weight management.
TELL FRIENDS! Create a VISION BOARD! Write it down!
THESE are your intentions. Put it out there, into the world, into the Universe. There is a much better chance that they will happen!
Malarky you say? Baloney you say?
Bring your intentions outside of you!
I attended my very first Vision Board workshop. I focused on just a few areas in my life. Work (my business of Ready To Exhale), and my personal goals (200 hr. Yoga Teacher Training and to begin eating cleaner, healthier).
My vision board consisted of words and pictures that showed my intentions. This board became the catalyst for my Powerful Wishes.
I kid you not. In less than a year, I became a Yoga Instructor (not an easy task for someone with PTSD and who gets confused super easy!). I lost 25 lbs because I ate better, cleaner. EVERY word, every picture, became a REALITY!!
Discover your own intentions and bring them out from within your mind, into your heart and then find a way to bring them OUTSIDE of you!
Sad? Lonely? Depressed? High Anxiety? Stressed?
Do you feel alone? Are you looking for understanding?
Looking back, I have to say that I've spent the majority of my life feeling alone. Feeling like there was no one out there like me, and feeling that if people really knew me, that they wouldn't like me anyway.
Was I a bad person? Was I doing things that people wouldn't approve of?
Did I have really really bad breath?
No to all of the above. But in my head, I didn't like myself very much. My self-esteem was very low. I was super shy, and didn't really have anyone to share my thoughts and feeling with.
As the years rolled on and passed, slowly my eyes opened.
Slowly I found new perspectives.
Slowly I learned that if I want to live a life that is worth living...
The ONLY person to create it, is ME.
...and so my journey in life continued. This time, there was more clarity. I began to engage in activities that brought me insight to my own mind and body. Then I began to meet others who shared my kind of journey. They had all kinds of backgrounds and reasons why they felt the way they did, but the bottom line was that we understood each other. We sat in non-judgement of each other. We supported each other.
Over the years, I learned ways to be creative with purging my feelings and emotions. I learned about being quiet and alone with myself in a way that was nurturing, and healing.
These are the kinds of things that I bring into my Creative Relief for Stress and Anxiety workshops for
Ready To Exhale.
Reaching out to others has been fulfilling and healing. Maybe the BEST part of this is that the road goes both ways. Reaching out brings healing all around.
Does Yoga Intrigue You?
Have you heard about yoga, and thought that it was just not for you? Or maybe you thought: "I'm too old". "Out of shape". "Too heavy". "I could never..." That was me too! I had let myself get soft and had no self-control when it came to eating right or taking time for self-care.
I found yoga in my 50's. I joined a class in one of my own retreats, and I was amazed at how this small practice put me in touch with my body.
I lifted weights! - What I really did, was hold up my own body weight.
I ate better! - Yoga brings into the forefront of your mind, the things in life that will make you feel better and be even more amazing.
With only a handful of yoga classes under me, I made a goal for myself to take a 200 hour Yoga Teacher Training. I was out of shape. I had no clue as to what the major yoga poses were called. And Sanskrit? What?
I knew that by becoming a Yoga Teacher, I could benefit others in my wellness classes. No matter what it is, whether it be a creative workshop, support group, retreat, or suggestions on self-care... Being a Yoga Teacher could benefit not only MY life, but I hoped that I could use this as an added tool in helping others.
I have found so much diversity in Yoga. Fun! Creative! Use it to increase energy. Use it to relax. Use it to discover your own super powers. Yoga has creeped into my eating habits. Yoga has made me notice the smallest of gifts in life that were there before... but my focus was elsewhere.
Join me in a beginner's class, or course! I would love to meet you!
I Am THAT Little Pig!
My business has been registered and open since 2016. I've had some ups and downs, and lots of disappointments, but I still have faith that I have something that is worth nurturing.
In order to offer a workshop, I would need to rent space. At first, it was a matter of finding space. Then, after I found a handful of choices, I held my workshops close by, marketed them as best I could with the little resources I had, and then hoped for the best.
So, here is what happened;
Those who came to my workshops were most pleasantly surprised, and most of them have been following my business. Awesomeness. Right?
I agree! The trouble was that only a handful of people came. Sometimes a handful was 1 or 2. I didn't have a minimum, because I am not in this to get rich. I want to reach people who will find what I am offering, and then reap the benefits! My problem came from having to rent a space for 3 hours, and then not to be able to cover my expenses.
I hung in there for awhile, with the mindset, "if you build it, they will come".
Well, there was so much more I wanted to offer! I wanted to encourage people to come and try this or that, at very little cost.
Can you see where this is going? YUP. The only one who was spending money on a regular basis was me. Not that I really minded, I truly thought, and still do, that these beautiful people are out there, and they will come!
In 2016, ...have I mentioned that I also had moved to a new town, and I had retired from my job with the public school system?
And in 2016, I began to max out my credit cards. Ugh.
Finally, in 2018, I realized (with the help of a great Job Coach) that what I really needed was to have consistency. How can I possibly get people interested and engaged, when I'm only offering workshops once in a blue moon, and in different places?
So, I entertained the idea of opening up a BRICK AND MORTAR business. Hence, the PIG reference.
I'm hoping that this makes me the SMART little piggy!
Check back in a few months for the answer to that.
Meanwhile, if you love; creativity, inner exploration, meeting new people, creating new and unique works of art, Yoga, Reiki, Restorative Yoga, and much more.....
Come and visit!! Ready To Exhale will have a home! 51 Depot Street, in Watertown, Ct. Across from Gayle's Farmshoppe. It's really a cute space, and I'd love for you to come and say hello!
Be on the look out for out of the ordinary workshops, yoga, support groups, and a whole lot more.
PS...… Lets do a fundraiser for your group! Selling chocolate bars, candles or wrapping paper is nice, but how about something fun and more profitable?! Now that I have a space, there are endless possibilities!!
Debbie Jaine lives in Woodbury, Ct. Helping women to see their wonderfully kind and powerful selves is what she loves to do best in her business and also in her personal life.